tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1984179779584386035.post547881882863800916..comments2023-06-22T07:52:46.192-04:00Comments on The Babysitter Writes: Having Large FamiliesJewish Side of Babysitterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15792110478994916775noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1984179779584386035.post-72316819706391149752008-09-11T02:34:00.000-04:002008-09-11T02:34:00.000-04:00"I don't like the whole idea of leeching off of ot..."I don't like the whole idea of leeching off of other people."<BR/><BR/>but in effect that's what happens.<BR/><BR/>"If you don't have a lot of children, then perhaps the expenses will come in other ways, like things will break down and have to be replaced."<BR/><BR/>there is no relationship between the amount of children and the amount of incidental expenses (such as things breaking). you can have a lot of kids AND have a lot of things breaking.<BR/><BR/>and btw, the more kids you have the greater chance things will be breaking :)<BR/>not everyone is as well behaved as that family you babysit for with 43 kids<BR/><BR/>"if a family of 5 uses 1 of the parents income, then if 2 parents work, that means it's double and should be able to support at least 10 kids."<BR/><BR/>not if the second salary bumps you up into a higher tax bracket. and there are also a lot of families that already have both parents working<BR/><BR/>"by MO High School's they offer the kids scholarships. <BR/><BR/>unfortunately it is not as easy as you make it out to be<BR/><BR/>"It's sad that it should prevent people from having more kids."<BR/><BR/>sad, but that's what happens.Lion of Zionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10342299133387602141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1984179779584386035.post-72193896974295242902008-09-10T08:14:00.000-04:002008-09-10T08:14:00.000-04:00Anonymous: Thank You, I appreciate that!Anonymous: Thank You, I appreciate that!Jewish Side of Babysitterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15792110478994916775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1984179779584386035.post-91763604109795598392008-09-10T00:47:00.000-04:002008-09-10T00:47:00.000-04:00Just surfing and came across your article. I think...Just surfing and came across your article. I think it's adorable, I really enjoyed it. -A Mommy of a large family!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1984179779584386035.post-69507268166023341122008-09-05T13:39:00.000-04:002008-09-05T13:39:00.000-04:00Miriam: yea I think when I heard it, the person me...Miriam: yea I think when I heard it, the person meant it as a joke. But yea, the family I know with baby #12 on the way, all the kids behave excellently they are never wild animals. One kid has a little wild streak, but she knows there's a time and place for it.Jewish Side of Babysitterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15792110478994916775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1984179779584386035.post-22736798681936878372008-09-05T13:25:00.000-04:002008-09-05T13:25:00.000-04:00i dont know about the kids running around wild whe...i dont know about the kids running around wild when the dad comes home... i would think the dad would be a little annoyed, if the kids are well behaved they should not be running around like vilda chaos. if the mom did her job right they are doing their hw and in pj's so the dad can enjoy quiet (as much as kids are "quiet") delighfulness after a hard days work and the kids should understand that. that is my goal as a future mother. i never want to hear my kids shouting and screaming for more then 1 minute unless they are outside playing and having fun.<BR/>i also know a family ki"h with 12 kids growing up... (i think 13 or 14 now) its an amazing thing. they were also doing all the things necessary to keep the house normal as much as possible(not much vilda chaos going on! :D)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1984179779584386035.post-31881992766184036122008-09-05T10:05:00.000-04:002008-09-05T10:05:00.000-04:00Lion Of Zion: Your right the money has to come fro...Lion Of Zion: Your right the money has to come from somewhere, I don't like the whole idea of leeching off of other people. But you know if your meant to have a certain amount of expenses, you will have it no matter what. If you don't have a lot of children, then perhaps the expenses will come in other ways, like things will break down and have to be replaced. <BR/><BR/>Plus, if a family of 5 uses 1 of the parents income, then if 2 parents work, that means it's double and should be able to support at least 10 kids. <BR/><BR/>We were learning in Taxes that there is a $1,000 credit per child. So then one guy said, we should have more children because of that. Then my prof said it's a loose situation. The $1,000 doesn't even begin to cover the expenses of a child. <BR/><BR/>But I still think people worry too much about money. A family could reduce their spending a bit. They don't have to be so lavish. This family works very systematically. They even get more stuff than other people. They get new shoes twice a year. They each get a robe twice a year. They each get uniforms. etc. But they won't buy their kids 5 knapsacks throughout the year. 1 should last through the year. While in other families if a kid sees something they want then they automatically get it. <BR/><BR/>Also, another expense is food. This family the mother makes supper every single day, and she has a menu for them, so they know what they are going to have. By other places I know where the children have to look through the fridge finding leftovers to eat. <BR/><BR/>So even though it would seem they shouldn't be able to afford things, they are living a much better lifestyle, and seem to be able to afford everything, by spending their money wisely. <BR/><BR/>About tuition, by MO High School's they offer the kids scholarships. It's sad that it should prevent people from having more kids. <BR/><BR/>lol, its one rate per family, so yea they do get more for their money. But most of the times I go there, I go for free. They only recently started paying me, because I hadn't had time to go over on my own.<BR/><BR/>M in M: that is not everyone, there is still a work force of men out there.<BR/><BR/>SuperRaizy: they seem to be able to afford it pretty well. I never hear the kids complaining about wanting things.Jewish Side of Babysitterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15792110478994916775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1984179779584386035.post-26380482138489545112008-09-04T22:41:00.000-04:002008-09-04T22:41:00.000-04:00I also agree that children from large families ten...I also agree that children from large families tend to be well behaved, polite, and unselfish (I guess they've learned to share). But I can not imagine how two parents (particularly teachers) can afford to support 12 children. That must be very very hard.SuperRaizyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06742653185025562286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1984179779584386035.post-71524345383046585112008-09-04T16:15:00.000-04:002008-09-04T16:15:00.000-04:00I have noticed how you said the father comes home ...I have noticed how you said the father comes home from "work" You are most probably dreaming and this will never happen. The father doesnt go to work he goes to learn in kollel and the mother works. (kidding)Mikeinmidwoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18076346601047947913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1984179779584386035.post-9462426066361961252008-09-04T14:28:00.000-04:002008-09-04T14:28:00.000-04:00ps. it's nice you have such a wonderful relationsh...ps. it's nice you have such a wonderful relationship with those kids. i just hope you are not giving them any discounts for multiple children!Lion of Zionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10342299133387602141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1984179779584386035.post-3619735399760651232008-09-04T14:27:00.000-04:002008-09-04T14:27:00.000-04:00i agree that family size is not necessarily an ind...i agree that family size is not necessarily an indicator of how the kids will turn out. bad parents can screw up an only child and good parents can raise 12 wonderful kids.<BR/><BR/><BR/>naturally i disagree with you about the $ question. this has been discussed already ad nauseum on Orthonomics. i just want to point<BR/>out that if a family has a lot of children and can't afford the tuition, that $ has to come from somewhere, i.e., increased tuition for other families or by further draining the limited resources of the general community. is this fair? i know you are going to tell me בטחון, but that $ eventually has to come from somewhere, and it doesn't directly from Heaven.<BR/><BR/>also, this is obviously not relevant to you, but in MO schools, tuition for pre-school can be 13-14k a year and high school can approach 30k a year. and even your RW schools are more expensive once you leave brooklyn. it is thus no wonder that yeshivah tuition is referred to as orthodox birth controlLion of Zionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10342299133387602141noreply@blogger.com